relationship counseling in WEBSTER, NY
It is my belief that we all want to feel connected to other people. It is these human connections that make the foundation of relationships.
From intimate bonds of romantic relationships to the ties of friendship, the connections within families, and even the professional affiliations that are present in your career – each type of relationship holds its own significance, challenges, and room for growth. Understanding the history, current chemistry or struggles you are having within a relationship can leave you feeling lonely, sad, confused or possibly even angry. I can help you navigate those feelings, learn skills that can be helpful in maintaining those relationships or support the possible decision of ending a relationship.
How I Can Help
the concern
You are questioning just how healthy your current romantic relationship is.
Maybe there has been increased arguing, not feeling understood, wondering if you are being gaslit or finding yourself acting in ways that are different from your usual self.
how i can help
I will sit with you and listen to all the feelings and emotions you are experiencing. I will talk with you about “listening to your gut” while separating emotions from the gut feeling. We will examine your history of relationships and I will look for any patterns that might be a common thread. Through this process, it is my hope you will find clarity in order to make the best decision for you.
the concern
You are dreading the holidays with your family members. You hesitate before answering a call from someone in your family.
You wait days to respond to a text from family. After spending time with family, you walk away feeling sad, angry or like you have been sent back in time when you were a child. Your family continues to inject themselves in areas of your life that you wish to be private. You question how you can keep this relationship and not feel bad about yourself.
how i can help
I am a firm believer in setting boundaries with all our relationships. Whether it be romantic, friendships or familial relationships, boundaries are important to ensure our own sense of safety. Boundaries are for us, not them. But setting them can feel foreign, especially with family. I will work with you on choosing with whom they need to be used, setting them in motion and processing the feelings afterwards. Sometimes, people need to distance themselves or even end a familial relationship in order to protect themselves from emotional distress. If that is the case, I will support you in how to move forward.
the concern
You find yourself struggling to find “the perfect relationship”.
Every relationship you try does not seem to be working. Previous relationships start out “hot and heavy” but then shortly fizzle. You start questioning if there is something wrong with you or is it just bad luck.
how i can help
I will do a relationship history with you and see if there is a common thread in any or all of them. I will share with you the “addiction” we can have with chaos and how a healthy or “ordinary” (as you may refer to it as) relationship can feel strange to the point that we may self-sabotage it. I will work with you on undoing patterns that impact the ability to have a healthy functional relationship.
the concern
You do not see your best friend as much as you used to.
You feel as though their life is moving forward and yours is still stuck in the past. The things you used to have in common may no longer exist. But you have always had this person in your life and you keep trying to make connections with them.
how i can help
I will provide support as we talk about the difficulties of maintaining friendships as we age, move away, grow in different directions, or no longer share the same philosophies. I will share with you how friendships can be maintained but may look differently than what has been. Creating a new friend out of an old friendship.
More Ways I Can Help You
Are you ready to take the next step in transforming your relationships or sexual health?
Schedule a free 10 minute consultation to get started. I look forward to hearing from you.